One quality I both admire and lack is an ability to be really honest about my life when I blog. Not to say that I'm making things up, but my blog has become a place where I document the cute things my kids do and the fun things we enjoy as a family. And lets face it, the girls provide plenty of cuteness, and Ty and I are always on the look-out for fun.
My problem is that when less than fabulous things happen or I'm thinking deep thoughts on religion, politics, etc. I want to write about it, but never feel comfortable doing so. I want my blog to be a some sort of cross between a journal and a scrapbook that I share with close friends and family, but you never really know who's going to be reading this stuff. I don't want this to be a place where some weirdo stalks my family or I offend someone. I don't want to come off as a big whiner. But I also want to be real.
So this is me being real. The last few weeks have been really hard. Tyler's dealing with a ton of stress at work, both of my grandparents have been in the hospital, and I just had a miscarriage. I know these are things most people deal with at one point or another, but it's not fun when it happens to you. I know people who have much more difficult things happening to them, and I realize that I have tremendous blessings in my life.
Ok, enough reality. I'm ready to go back to posting about more important things, such as SYTYCD, Project Runway, and The Dark Knight.
10 years ago
13 comments:
Thinking of you, Mindy.
The thing about blogging (in my opinion) is that it's yours, and you can share the bits and pieces that you want to share or capture or remember. I don't think it's any less real to share mostly the cute and funny things. I also don't think it's whining to share when things get tough - if you want to share those things, that is.
For me, blogging about the happy parts and the tough parts reminds me that that is what life is all about - the light and dark, hard and easy, laughter and tears.
So, thank you for sharing what you share - I always enjoy reading your blog.
So sorry to hear about the tough few weeks. It all had to come crashing down at once or what? Sheesh!
About the miscarriage. . . there is always that "waiting period" where you tell youself not to get your hopes up "just in case" but the minute you find out you are pregnant it's already too late. Hopes are up. I am very sorry to hear about that. I hope things get better soon. Hang in there.
I know exactly what you mean! Sometimes you want to vent but then it comes across as just complaining. Other times, especially when the subject is of more serious or personal matter, you would rather "keep up appearances" and let the world know everything is going a-okay. I am guilty of both. Notice I didn't even mention Roman's possible hearing loss until I knew everything was alright. I guess I need to work on that!
mind, i adore you!
I totally agree about the "putting on a good face" with blogging. I'm very guilty. Yes, I've been saying potty training is going great, I didn't mention the poopie in the pants incident. I'm sorry to hear about all that's been going on. I hope things turn up again soon.
I know what you mean. Dealing with a miscarriage can be such a difficult, sad, lonely time. You are not whining and shouldn't feel like you have to apologize. I love and admire you so much. And hope that happy times come your way very soon.
Man, I swear you are the 4th person that I know pretty well that has miscarried in the last 2 months. What the h*** is going on? Sorry, you get attached the minute you find out, that totally sucks! By the way, I am of the opinion that sometimes that is all you really Need- someone who just agrees that it sucks- whatever the problem, trial, what-have-you.. Elise is the most real blogger I know- life is never all sunshine, but the sunshine is what we all try to focus on because we are happy, smart, grateful people. Doesn't mean it doesn't suck sometimes though.. Love ya.. sorry you have to deal with all of this.
Okay- I CANNOT believe that Will got kicked off last night!! I am still in shock!! He was the best one! love Twitch but seriously... it should have been Mark..
Mindy... so glad you shared. I justs finished my blurb(blog)book and thought I really need to put in more of my thoughts and feelings (good or bad) if I want this to be more journal like... and I do. Anyway.. I've learned the hard way that it's good to share and get the burden lifted a little by others. I love you tons.. so so glad we got back in touch. I think of you often! plus.. no one else I know watches project runway --
Mindy. Love and prayers are with you. So sorry this is such a hard time. Hopefully I'll see you soon and we can catch up.
Loves,
Michelle
Mindy. Love and prayers are with you. So sorry this is such a hard time. Hopefully I'll see you soon and we can catch up.
Loves,
Michelle
Mindy, you are so great! I felt so grateful to know you as I read this. I, for one, appreciate a little realness every now and then (along with adorable pictures and fun stories about your kids). I can't believe how many things you have hitting you at once--I'm so sorry about the miscarriage. I don't think there are very many things harder than that. Hang in there. You are so incredible and so many people love you tons!
Mindy, I'm glad I found you on Facebook. I'm sorry about your miscarriage and other hardships this summer, and I'm happy to see you have such a beautiful little family. Figuring out the purpose of blogging is an ongoing process for me. My wife and I approach the problem by having one blog where we post the cute pictures of our kids and tell cute stories about them, and then we each have our own "real" blogs where we whine and offend people. This way our friends and family can choose which side of us they want to see (or they can see both if they want to), and hopefully we keep the weirdo stalkers focused on us, not our kids.
Anyway, it's cool to peak in on an old friend and see how you're doing. Have you seen the Brady family blog? Take care.
--Ben C.
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